Why I’m Banning Social Media at My Wedding

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I’m the first to admit it, I love losing an afternoon on Instagram as I creep through wedding hashtags. I’ve fallen down the rabbit hole of cute couples and even searched guest handles to see more angles of the gown or elaborate table settings. I get so invested I’ll check back weeks later to see how the perfectly planned honeymoon unfolded. Scary, I know.

My digital creeping might be why I plan to keep my own nuptials off the grid. When I get married later this year, there won’t be a single Tweet, Snap or Insta to commemorate the occasion. Besides the fact that there’s no adorable way to combine our names, I usually hate every picture ever taken of me, so I’m just not on board. I’d like to say that it’s because I want all of my guests to be present with us on the happy day, but truthfully, I am an intensely private person and I’m hesitant to share my newfound wedded bliss with the world (and creepers like moi). To me, some of the magic of the moment is lost when the play-by-play is broadcast in real time.

It’s no surprise that our engagement has been entirely offline too. Instead of posting a ring selfie or Snapchat from the bridal boutique, we’ve decided to share the exciting news with everyone closest to us in person (or on FaceTime for faraway family). I recently bumped into a friend who didn’t know about our engagement and immediately asked if she’d missed the post.

I’m definitely not against social media. I’m easy to find on every channel, but my approach has always been quieter. My big day won’t be any different. Emily Weiss of Into The Gloss recently posted beautiful beach shots of her special day three months after the fact. Maybe that’s an approach I’ll try too. The most important thing I’ve learned through the wedding planning process is to make sure that every part of the day feels entirely like us, and that includes our privacy settings.